Posted on 26th November 2007 by Bamshad (Bob) Lotfabadi in Archive
Bamshad, Iranian
Life is not very different for a traditional girl either – only hidden. She does not state her true feelings. She is on the hide from a large group of people her age.Maybe she thinks she is safer in not participating in the many areas people her age get themselves involved in enthusiastically. I think she does not have an open mind and is not eager to realize what is going on outside the very strict boundaries she draws around herself. Therefore she comes and goes silently, without a firm idea of how she can be beneficiary to the society she lives in. Mind you, she may think that she is beneficial but as her reasoning and logic are weak, she cannot convey a majority of those in real need of the tradition.
It seems to me that life is much more beautiful when you step outside your limits, just to experience more of the reality and the truth that surrounds you. I am not in favor of stepping out of the borderlines you or life has drawn for you just to get into a fantasy world which no-one around the world really cares for except those who really do like to hallucinate. I am in favor of breaking the tight boundaries just to find yourself waiting for you out of it – something real, something true, something based on knowledge. I believe by taking advantage of human creativity and moralities, by working hard and passionately, not to mention considering the valuable experiences of cultures and the religion it becomes possible to compete in a global world where the only thing that is not needed is lack of authenticity and lack of an open-mind balanced through moral behavior.
/Bamshad\
Posted on 24th November 2007 by Bamshad (Bob) Lotfabadi in Archive
Bamshad, Iranian
Just look how fast the world is moving and updating itself through greater competition. Having open minds, being creative, interacting with others in a global environment, and finding out more about the traditions and cultures and exchanging ideas with them have become keystones in improving life-style and having higher national productivity. This is what the Iranian young people need to know and work on! The Iranian youth forget that the Western culture is rather based on the framework of awareness, science, experience, and wisdom, which keeps it in top form. The youth should know that dancing in clubs till the morning or having unlawful intercourses are not the keys to the Western advancement and success. It seems that our young people have become accustomed to only the chaotic things through what other cultures have to offer – and not just from one foreign culture but several of them such as the culture from the far-east, the middle-east, and the west.
Take a post-modernized Iranian boy for example. This post-modernized Iranian boy likes to have several girl friends and somehow get what he wants from them with the least effort and the least amount of care or passion. The boy no longer cares about “stupid” subjects such as morality or getting into some long talks that can be beneficial to both parties. The boy has forgotten that there is something honest he can put forward. But if we think that the story ends here we do not still fully understand the disaster. The post-modernized Iranian girl does similar things as well. As I understand, it seems like she should have had shallow emotional and “more-than-just-friendly” relationships with several young men before you meet her. She is not complete if she doesn’t have the heart to quickly change you and replace you with someone else apparently a bit cooler – or with longer hair if the case be. She is not supposed to stay moral. She should easily decide to fulfill her needs by misusing and exploiting the opposite gender and instead act mincingly. Also, she should study just a little bit in university so that she can say I have some education and that I understand intellectuality. In addition she should act like an American dancer in the parties and in the outdoors away from the eye of the more traditional, and to sometimes yell a bit so that everyone would know she is familiar with the Western attitude and style.
/Bamshad\
This is part 2 of 3. Comments and criticisms are welcome.
Posted on 23rd November 2007 by Ehsan Talebniya in Archive
Ehsan, Ehsan Talebniya, Life
Prepared by: Ehsan Talebnia – An author at bamshad.com
Setting Goals Effectively
The following broad guidelines will help you to set effective goals:
- State each goal as a positive statement: Express your goals positively – ‘Execute this technique well’ is a much better goal than ‘Don’t make this stupid mistake’
- Be precise: Set a precise goal, putting in dates, times and amounts so that you can measure achievement. If you do this, you will know exactly when you have achieved the goal, and can take complete satisfaction from having achieved it.
- Set priorities: When you have several goals, give each a priority. This helps you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by too many goals, and helps to direct your attention to the most important ones.
- Write goals down: this crystallizes them and gives them more force.
- Keep operational goals small: Keep the low-level goals you are working towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it. Keeping goals small and incremental gives more opportunities for reward. Derive today’s goals from larger ones.
- Set performance goals, not outcome goals: You should take care to set goals over which you have as much control as possible. There is nothing more dispiriting than failing to achieve a personal goal for reasons beyond your control. These could be bad business environments, poor judging, bad weather, injury, or just plain bad luck. If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals and draw satisfaction from them.
- Set realistic goals: It is important to set goals that you can achieve. All sorts of people (parents, media, society) can set unrealistic goals for you. They will often do this in ignorance of your own desires and ambitions. Alternatively you may be naïve in setting very high goals. You might not appreciate either the obstacles in the way, or understand quite how many skills you must master to achieve a particular level of performance.
- Do not set goals too low: Just as it is important not to set goals unrealistically high, do not set them too low. People tend to do this where they are afraid of failure or where they are lazy! You should set goals so that they are slightly out of your immediate grasp, but not so far that there is no hope of achieving them. No one will put serious effort into achieving a goal that they believe is unrealistic. However, remember that your belief that a goal is unrealistic may be incorrect. If this could be the case, you can to change this belief by using imagery effectively.
Posted on 23rd November 2007 by Bamshad (Bob) Lotfabadi in Archive
Bamshad, Iranian
When we think rationally we succeed in the challenges and ups and downs of life but without logical and rational reasoning we have problems. The examples of irrationality are numerous in our society, two of which lead a large portion of the young generation. As the common two norms in my opinion, none of these two approaches to life bring prosperity and long-term joy. These are the traditional thinking approach, and the so-called open-mindedness and non-traditional approach – which by the way is hunting down the young more than ever before. One of these is very limiting and the other is chaotic and very messy.
You see the norms we see so frequently in our society rise from unawareness, or to be more direct to the point, from ignorance. The stricter young people take blind refuge to traditional law and eventually assume their way is the absolute and only way to live the life, unaware that life is much more beautiful beyond the boundaries they draw to stay presumably safe or to feel protected. On the other hand, the so-called open-minded ones blindly laugh at religiosity and welcome what they think is the Western lifestyle, unaware that without real knowledge and research, all they are doing is mimicking the few pleasurable moments the Western people include into their hectic daily work schedules. These “open-minded young people”, which I would like to refer to as “post-modernized” in my writing and put most of my emphasis on, have turned their back on the moralities in the Iranian heritage and do not near the previous wise generation. Not knowing that our cultural treasures follow the moral rules that are global the post-modernized abandon the heritage altogether. This is very common during the current transformation in our society from traditional to extra modern. Therefore, both the traditional and the post-modernized young groups are prisoners of their severe wrong assumptions of success.
/Bamshad\
PS.
This was part 1 of 3. Comments and criticisms are welcome.
Posted on 17th November 2007 by Ehsan Talebniya in Archive
Ehsan, Ehsan Talebniya, Life
Prepared by: Ehsan Talebnia – An author at bamshad.com
How to Start to Achieve Your Lifetime Goals
Once you have set your lifetime goals, set a 25 year plan of smaller goals that you should complete if you are to reach your lifetime plan. Then set a 5 year plan, 1 year plan, 6 month plan, and 1 month plan of progressively smaller goals that you should reach to achieve your lifetime goals. Each of these should be based on the previous plan.
Finally set a daily to-do list of things that you should do today to work towards your lifetime goals. At an early stage these goals may be to read books and gather information on the achievement of your goals. This will help you to improve the quality and realism of your goal setting.
Finally review your plans, and make sure that they fit the way in which you want to live your life.
Staying on Course
Once you have decided your first set of plans, keep the process going by reviewing and updating your to-do list on a daily basis. Periodically review the longer term plans, and modify them to reflect your changing priorities and experience.
Posted on 17th November 2007 by Bamshad (Bob) Lotfabadi in Archive
Iran, Shomal, Travel
Posted on 14th November 2007 by Ehsan Talebniya in Archive
Ehsan, Ehsan Talebniya, Life
Preapred by: Ehsan Talebnia – An author at bamshad.com
Your Lifetime Goals
The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime, as setting Lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making.
To give a broad, balanced coverage of all important areas in your life, try to set goals in some or all of the following categories:
- Artistic:
Do you want to achieve any artistic goals? If so, what?
- Attitude:
Is any part of your mindset holding you back? Is there any part of the way that you behave that upsets you? If so, set a goal to improve your behavior or find a solution to the problem.
- Career:
What level do you want to reach in your career?
- Education:
Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in particular? What information and skills will you need to achieve other goals?
- Family:
Do you want to be a parent? If so, how are you going to be a good parent? How do you want to be seen by a partner or by members of your extended family?
- Financial:
How much do you want to earn by what stage?
- Physical:
Are there any athletic goals you want to achieve, or do you want good health deep into old age? What steps are you going to take to achieve this?
- Pleasure:
How do you want to enjoy yourself? – you should ensure that some of your life is for you!
- Public Service:
Do you want to make the world a better place by your existence? If so, how?
Once you have decided your goals in these categories, assign a priority to them from A to F. Then review the goals and re-prioritize until you are satisfied that they reflect the shape of the life that you want to lead. Also ensure that the goals that you have set are the goals that you want to achieve, not what your parents, spouse, family, or employers want them to be.
